confession: my 3-week-old baby is adorable but i still think my husband is cuter

Most girls are relentlessly told that we will be treated how we demand to be treated. If we want respect, we must respect ourselves.

This does three things. Firstly, it gets men off the hook for being held accountable for how they treat women. And secondly, it makes women feel that the mistreatment and sometimes outright violence they face due to their gender is primarily their fault. And thirdly, it positions women to be unable to speak out against sexism because we are made to believe any sexism we experience would not have happened if we had done something differently.

I cannot demand a man to respect me. No more than I can demand that anybody do anything. I can ask men to be nice to me. But chances are if I even have to ask he does not care to be nice. I can express displeasure when I’m not being respected. But that doesn’t solve the issue that I was disrespected in the first place.

I can choose to not deal with a man once he proves to be disrespectful and/or sexist. But even that does not solve the initial problem of the fact that I had to experience being disrespected in the first place.

As a young girl, I wish that instead of being told that I needed to demand respect from men that I had been told that when I am not respected by men that it’s his fault and not mine. But that would require that we quit having numerous arbitrary standards for what it means to be a “respectable” woman. It would mean that I am not judged as deserving violence based on how I speak, what I wear, what I do, and who I am.

— excerpt from “FYI, I Cannot “Demand” Respect From Men so Stop Telling Me That!" @ One Black Girl. Many Words.   (via tierdropp)

I would go back in time and hand a print out of this to me at age seventeen

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Well then.
Let’s just reblog this so the 17 year olds we love will see it.

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F’s already pretty stylish

fastcompany:

Adidas and Nike are in a foot race to see who can perfect a knit—not sewn—shoe that will wastes less material and doesn’t need as much cheap labor to make.

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fuchsianprivilege:

Also if im reblogging from some one gross tell me. Ive seen good people accidentally reblog terfs. Dont let friends reblog terfs.

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Our little one is here! Florian came to us two weeks before our due date in a pretty amazing home birth, and we are ecstatic.

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diaryofakanemem:

Babies moving inside belly's mom

…. okay.

im never having kids.

da fuq…?

I tried to explain to my mother, that in my whole life, I’d never seen this before, or really understood that like, you could see prints and everything and she was so judgy.

But like…whoa

what the fuck

they ain’t even ever tell us it was like this in science class

i been done had mad pregnant relatives and ain’t no one ever bring this shit up

i know it’s supposed to be beautiful .. but..  it just .. a bit unnerving .. like the face hugger is about to burst from out of there.. OMG( i’m a terrible human being )

i think this is so cool. i remember the first time i saw my nephew move in my sister’s belly. it was awesome.

also it’s scary that this just isnt a part of general education. THIS IS HOW PEOPLE ARE MADE should be taught all over the damn place.

I do not want kids. NOPE.
NOOOOOPE.
NO THANKS.

it feels even weirder than it looks

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adriofthedead:

vicemag:

A quick tip for your elevator ride up to the office: grab a piping hot cuppa joe at the corner store and stick an egg in it to make a hard boiled morning snack.

just stick your hands in boiling hot coffee. go on. do it. just shove your fingers on in that blistering hot cuppa joe. throw an egg in there. who gives a shit. eat your god damn coffee eggs like the stupid slobbering idiot that you are


also carry a raw egg to work with you. maybe in your pocket or bag. what could possibly go wrong?

adriofthedead:

vicemag:

A quick tip for your elevator ride up to the office: grab a piping hot cuppa joe at the corner store and stick an egg in it to make a hard boiled morning snack.

just stick your hands in boiling hot coffee. go on. do it. just shove your fingers on in that blistering hot cuppa joe. throw an egg in there. who gives a shit. eat your god damn coffee eggs like the stupid slobbering idiot that you are

also carry a raw egg to work with you. maybe in your pocket or bag. what could possibly go wrong?

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