Chicago tomorrow is going to be really really ugly the timing of this is deliberate PLEASE stay safe
what’s happening there?
CPD, FBI, and Illinois State Troopers are going into “troubled neighborhoods” to hunt down criminals for the next 60 days or so.
The tragic death of Robin Williams has a lot of us thinking about our own experiences with depression.
It seems as though it can be very hard for people to understand that depression is a disease and not the result of external factors.
Please, if someone you know is suffering, don’t try to “help” by telling them everything they have to be grateful for. Trust me, we know. And we feel guilty about it. And the guilt feeds into the depression.
Please don’t tell us we just need to exercise (or diet, or to find a new job, or get a hobby, or socialize more etc.). Those things may or may not help to some degree. But depression saps our motivation and makes simple tasks very frustrating and difficult.
Please, don’t tell us we seem just fine. We know how to act “normal” — even cheerful — in order to keep from making others feel uncomfortable or burdened.
Please don’t expect the fact that you love us to fix everything. We value your love and we love you too. But love can’t fix depression any more than it can fix cancer.
Please support us by believing we have an illness, helping us get help, and reminding us that we are not defined by our depression; that you know it’s not a character flaw to be overcome but an illness that can be treated.
During my worst bouts of depression, Carl has made references to my “not feeling well.” That might sound dismissive to you, but that little phrase packs volumes of understanding: it lets me know that he does not think I’m ungrateful, lazy, or self-centered. That my illness does not define me. And that small show of understanding makes all the difference in my ability to get help.
In Norwegian, you don’t refer to your romantic partner as a “boyfriend” or “girlfriend”. You say “kjæreste”, which is gender neutral and literally translates to “the dearest”.
and in swedish you refer to your boyfriend/girlfriend by saying ”älskling” which translates into ”my beloved one”
And in Finnish we say “mulkvisti” which means “one I don’t hate as much as the others”
*squints at finland*